tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-61438938388562679132024-02-07T22:00:29.333-05:00with and without her... life with my mother and her trip through dementia ...Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.comBlogger288125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-23874353560291752772021-02-03T10:29:00.003-05:002021-02-03T10:29:31.284-05:00a child<p><span class="d2edcug0 hpfvmrgz qv66sw1b c1et5uql rrkovp55 a8c37x1j keod5gw0 nxhoafnm aigsh9s9 d3f4x2em fe6kdd0r mau55g9w c8b282yb iv3no6db jq4qci2q a3bd9o3v knj5qynh oo9gr5id hzawbc8m" dir="auto">"Our
spirits are eternal. Our souls are forever. The next time you encounter
an elderly person, look at them and know they are still a child, just
as you are still a child and children will always need love, attention
and purpose." a quote from a fb post by the Blue Ridge Believers September 28, 2018</span> <br /></p>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-41467710126143217642021-02-02T11:27:00.002-05:002021-02-02T11:32:02.399-05:00Tony Bennett<p>John Colapinto wrote a very moving article for the AARP. It is about Tony Bennett and his Alzheimers.</p><p> <a href="https://www.aarp.org/entertainment/celebrities/info-2021/tony-bennett-alzheimers.html">Link</a> https://www.aarp.org/entertainment/celebrities/info-2021/tony-bennett-alzheimers.html<br /></p><p>I see that this is part of a series of articles by the AARP about Tony Bennett and his journey, that his family wants to share with us, to know, learn, and understand.<br /></p><p>"... his expression had a masklike impassivity" made me cry. I know that look so well.<br /></p>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-26671362478938317552020-12-29T08:20:00.004-05:002020-12-29T08:29:02.376-05:00Montessori<p>A wonderful article about using the Montessori method of education with people who are living with dementia. Check out the Association Montissori International AMI website for more information. <a href="https://montessori-ami.org/" target="_blank">LINK</a> </p><p>You can find their video here: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=be8OP7sBRH8" target="_blank">VIDEO</a><br /></p>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-20118775603405885522020-11-30T17:45:00.008-05:002021-02-02T11:30:20.066-05:00Wendy Mitchell<p>A heartfelt blog by Wendy Mitchell who has Young Onset Dementia </p><p> "Which Me Am I Today?" </p><p>https://whichmeamitoday.wordpress.com/</p>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-30805185116755297772020-06-28T10:02:00.000-04:002020-06-28T10:18:05.051-04:00coffee breaks and tea timecoffee breaks and tea time<br />
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Dehydration can cause health problems. <br />
Dehydration causes confusion, effects coordination, exacerbates dry skin. It can cause nausea, fainting, and dizziness. Dehydration can worsen constipation and cause headaches.<br />
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Dehydration is evidence by a decrease in urination and its dark color.<br />
Dehydration happens not only in the heat of summer, it can happens in winter too. In winter the air is dryer, we don't have the "hot and thirsty" feelings, but we can still be dehydrated.<br />
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And worse it can compound the brainfog of dementia. Someone with
dementia may not be able to recognize they are thirsty or have the
ability to ask for a drink. <br />
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Instead of fighting the battle with dementia and your loved one "you must drink another glass of water", what if we develop the <u>routine</u> to have daily coffee breaks and tea time, morning and afternoon, pause and refresh.<br />
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Some elders have smaller appetites, so opportunities for more small meals is a good thing too. Stop and pause, the opportunity to have a little bite to eat at coffee or tea time.<br />
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More small meals is another way to get in a healthy snacks: cheese and fruit with crackers, or vegetables and humus, or fruit muffins, or mini meatballs, or fruit and yogurt parfait.<br />
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And your beverage doesn't have to be coffee or tea. Fruit or vegetable juice, ice tea, herb tea, popcycles, lemon-aid, fruit and yogurt frappe, milk shake, water, or seltzer.<br />
Maybe this is time to sneak in that dose of fiber into a smoothie or nutritional supplement into a frappe.<br />
Or maybe the tea time beverage can be the first course for dinner, a soup. A soup can be hot and hearty or a cold soup, chilled and refreshing.<br />
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I make a chilled cucumber soup in the summer, it contains broth and peach yogurt, blended with cucumbers and mint. My granddaughter calls it a cucumber smoothie - whatever you call it, it's delicious and nutritious. <br />
<br />Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-65864761344377566052020-02-04T15:22:00.001-05:002020-02-04T15:22:07.546-05:00smart devicesHi dear readers, long time no post...<br />
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Today I was listening to NHPR "Here & Now" and an article by Robin Young about the Super Bowl LIV commercial for the Google Voice Assistant. An elder man was asking "Hey Google" to help him remember stuff about his wife Loretta. "Hey Google, remember Loretta hated my mustache."<br />
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I think one point of this news article was the question: are we letting Google (and other platforms) have too much of our personal information? But whether it's talking to our computer aided devices or typing into them directly, so much of our quirks and secrets are already out there. I remember searching online for patterns to make cloth diapers, for my soon-to-be grandchild. For months and months after that I was plagued with advertisements for diapers.<br />
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However my thoughts ran to a different question.<br />
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As my Mother's dementia grew she would purchase the same items over and over. <a href="http://withandwithouther.blogspot.com/2009/10/steering-through-aisles.html">Link</a> She had eight bottles of molasses in her pantry. She would send the same birthday gifts to her granddaughters over and over. She would buy a birthday card every time she was in a store for whomever had the next birthday, her birthday card collection was huge. She was using computers for email and creating documents, but she never got into browsing the web, or shopping there.<br />
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In my dementia caregivers support group I heard of people with dementia who got quite out of hand with the HomeShoppingNetwork. Watching tv and purchasing<i> another</i> set of pots and pans for their daughter-in-law, because you know she would love new pots. Or purchasing<i> another </i>big cozy bathrobe because mine is old and ratty and this one looks so soft.<br />
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We have all heard the story about the parrot that was ordering treats from Amazon through a voice activated assistant. "Hey Siri - Polly wants more crackers."<br />
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I already have become use to just snapping off an order to Amazon for
that big bag of cat food I can't purchase locally. It's all so convenient.<br />
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<b>So my question is</b>: as most of us are now quite use to using our highly connected computer aided devices for everything, how will those habits help or hurt us when dementia creeps in?<br />
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"Hey refrigerator, purchase OJ." "Purchase OJ" "Purchase OJ" "Purchase OJ."<br />
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"Hey thermostat, turn the heat up. Turn the heat up. Turn the heat up." When she really is sick with a fever and needs help.<br />
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"Hey Siri call the police I can't get up."<br />
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"Hey Alexa call the police there is a strange man in my house" who is really just his own reflection in a mirror.<br />
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<br />Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-1507732538827366252018-11-14T10:28:00.000-05:002018-11-14T10:28:27.737-05:00the teacherI have always hoped, that with age, I would grow-up to become a wise woman, I would become a sage woman.<br />
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In my internet browsing I found a lecture by Scott Stuart<span style="font-size: small;"> -<span class="long-title" dir="ltr" id="eow-title" title="Scott Stuart - Dimensions of Dementia: Deepening our Care"> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nbuV7kJFVtE&feature=plcp&context=C4e18284VDvjVQa1PpcFOGBl4M4S88J-n_lvsP8Ml1TqoH6Wk_ALE=">Dimensions of Dementia: Deepening our Care.</a></span></span> In his lecture Scott talks about the worth of all people, and the value of all people, at all points in their lives. Scott also talked about what we can learn from those who have dementia. They are still teaching us things, and we should be receptive to these life lessons. <br />
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My Mother was a teacher, she was a very good teacher. What did Mom teach me, while she had dementia, although indirectly?<br />
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That raising children, which I believe is one of the hardest job in the world, is a piece of cake, compared to dealing with dementia!<br />
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She has taught me that dementia is not really like a Dementor, a character from the books of Harry Potter. Yes, dementia sucked out the happiness that was in my Mother and most of the happiness that was in our relationship. But the dementia-demon has not sucked out her soul. Her soul and her tortured body were very much still there together, until she died.<br />
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What did my Mother teach me? That you will always miss you mother after she is gone, even if she has been gone for sixty years. You can still miss her with all the emotional rawness as it was the day she died. It can be as powerful as it was sixty years ago.<br />
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What did my Mother teach me? We are creatures of habit. We like certain things and we don't like certain things. Mom never liked button down shirts or flannel sheets, and somehow she could still communicate that to me. Her aides just attributed that to her daily grouchiness, but I knew the difference.<br />
<br />When Susan lost her mother, she wrote in <b><a href="http://backdoorlogic.blogspot.com/2013/02/anticipatory-grief.html">her blog</a></b>: "<span id="bc_0_1b+seedUlouD" kind="d">Along the care giving road
something amazing happened, my mom gave me a gift of pure Love. My
mom knew love and taught me to experience it too. My mom's illness was
our greatest blessing, without it, I would not have a heart that is full
of love."</span><br />
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Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-18148360076447367262018-11-12T20:44:00.000-05:002018-11-14T09:48:55.991-05:00I can't careAgain, Teepa Snow has succinctly put into words what it took me years to realize.<br />
My mother had Vascular Dementia and maybe Frontal Temporal Dementia too.<br />
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She couldn't care.<br />
She couldn't care.<br />
She couldn't care.<br />
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The "I care about xxx" part of her brain was busted.<br />
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Please watch<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvXKH6UoROs"> </a><b><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvXKH6UoROs">Teepa's video</a></b>, become educated.<br />
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Oh why does my Mother's dementia still hurt my heart so much?<br />
<br />Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-69500977879681896652018-10-17T23:25:00.000-04:002018-10-17T23:49:18.546-04:00a dog named StormyThe<a href="https://withandwithouther.blogspot.com/2010/06/memorial-day.html"> <b>family plot</b>,</a> where my Mother and Father (and other ancestors) are interred, is in the old section of the cemetery, most stones date from the early 1800's to early 1900's. So I usually never see other living people when I visit this cemetery. Once I was surprised by a walker on her daily constitutional. She quite snuck up on me and scared me to pieces.<br />
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Down the path there is a well with a hand pump where you can fill your watering can, to water the flowers you've planted on your ancestors' graves. As a child I remember learning how use this hand pump, how to prime it, and how to fill the watering can without soaking your socks and sneakers.<br />
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Things change very slowly in this part of the cemetery, subtle changes. A large tree was missing from the neighborhood, just a stump left. <br />
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One day, a year or so after my Mother died, I arrived at the family plot to see a man planting a ginkgo tree.<br />
Isn't this something usually done by the cemetery workers?<br />
This man had a young golden retriever dog with him, who immediately came over to me as friendly as could be. I walked the dog back over to his human. <br />
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"Hi neighbor" I said. It seemed a fitting, yet strange thing to say. Will be be eternal neighbors some day? I went over and introduced myself.<br />
He was replacing the old tree that was destroyed by the previous winter storm. <br />
His family plot is the one with the beautiful rose quartz headstone that I've admired since I was a kid<br />
After a bit more conversation I went to plant the irises I brought.<br />
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The golden retriever came back and sat next to me, as I dug and planted. He let me hug him and
pet him. He sat on my father's flat stone, beside me. I couldn't plant, I just cried and cried, hugging this dog. He
put his paw on my thigh and let me weep into his soft fur. He stayed with me for a long time. I
wasn't just teary. I had those big sobs that catch in your throat. I was
a mess.<br />
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My father always had golden dogs, retrievers or mutts.<br />
This dog was being so friendly, affectionate, and comforting. <br />
His name was Stormy. Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-19198360561028858842018-03-11T10:34:00.001-04:002021-04-21T17:02:29.597-04:00naughty wordsAgain and again.<br />
Just like dementia does, I'm going to remind you to watch Teepa Snow's videos.<br />
Here she talks about our language skills and how they are affected by dementia.<br />
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BlZF_4EKp4">Watch here.</a> December 21, 2017 entry on YouTube at "Teepa Snow's Positive Approach to Care"Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-25869603942094741022018-03-08T10:50:00.000-05:002018-11-14T10:13:43.594-05:00the last bathIt has been four years since Mom died.<br />
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There are still memories of Mom and her dementia swirling
around in my head, things I want to write about.
This story is about her last bath.<br />
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Mom caught pneumonia, was sent to the ER, admitted into
the hospital, and died the next day. All so sudden. You can read about it<b> <a href="https://withandwithouther.blogspot.com/2014/05/opening-door.html">here</a></b>.<br />
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The hospital called me early that morning, she had died
during the night. I stopped by her assisted living residence to pick up some
clothes. I hugged and cried with the staff. They had already been informed by the hospital.<br />
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When I saw Mom, she was lying peacefully on her back, all tucked into bed, intravenous lines removed and beeping heart monitor taken away.<br />
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The nurse was there with me, calm and reassuring.<br />
"Did I want to bath her before we got her dressed?"
she asked. "I will help you."
We knew she was dying, they had kept her clean, did I really need to bath her?
But, this was a gift, a special time with my Mom, one last physical act between us, one last time that I could touch her, hold her, and take care of her - a goodbye event - a ritual.<br />
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Still attempting to protect and honor her modesty, we bathed her bit by bit, uncovering and exposing pieces at a time.
Sort of like how a masseuse reveals only the parts to be massaged. I washed her hair too, her short silky brown hair, I
towel dried it and tried to brush it.<br />
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Her body was cold and deathly white on top and so very hot and
purple on the bottom side. That she was so cold and so hot at the same time was something I was not expecting.<br />
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Mom never liked my help getting dressed. I would stand behind her, or off to the side,
when helping her. She would kick me when I would put on her sneakers.
I can remember "angry dementia Mom" saying snarky things like "did you get a good look" when I was helping
her into a johnnie at doctor appointments.<br />
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Getting her dressed was both horribly sad and humorous.
She was dead weight. She was like a rag doll, and like a Barbie doll, I couldn't
easily bend her to get her dressed.
Trying to hold her leg while putting on her socks just got me laughing.<br />
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It was heartbreaking, joyous, and humorous all at the same time.
As I tugged Mom's jersey over her head or tried to pull
her socks up I kept waiting for "angry dementia Mom" to pop up and
start yelling at me. "What in the #%$# do you think you are doing? I
don't need help getting dressed."
But when I brushed her hair I could hear my "real Mom" say in a
soft voice "Oh that feels good."<br />
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Thank you to the hospital staff for letting me have this time with my Mother, and supporting me through this ritual.
Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-74172607577018788602016-10-18T11:32:00.000-04:002016-10-18T11:32:15.779-04:00Lewy Body dementia <div style="text-align: center;">
Dementia in all it's forms</div>
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Stealing skills</div>
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Battering the brain</div>
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Loosing our loved ones </div>
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Causing confusion</div>
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Disguises as depression</div>
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Ruthless with Robin</div>
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Read about Robin Williams and his Lewy Body Dementia.</div>
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<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/robin-williams-dementia-with-lewy-bodies_us_5638f32ee4b027f9b96a418f">Huffington Post</a></div>
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<a href="https://www.theguardian.com/film/2015/nov/03/robin-williams-disintegrating-before-suicide-widow-says">The Guardian</a></div>
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<br />Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-19406144998962702352016-08-02T11:02:00.000-04:002016-08-02T11:02:10.988-04:00I'm sorryTeepa Snow always has such good information to help us caregivers do it better.<br />
Please watch this video.<br />
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vasnp81x63E">I'm Sorry</a>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-14278455808343971792016-03-28T17:37:00.000-04:002018-03-11T10:36:30.450-04:00JimPlease hold in your hearts Jim and Karen and their children. <br />
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<a href="http://missingjim.com/">link</a><br />
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Jim passed away this week from Younger Onset Alzheimer's Disease.<br />
He could have been my younger brother: a healthy, intelligent, active guy with a wife and two children. <br />
Alzheimer's is NOT just an old person's disease.<br />
Alzheimer's is NOT a normal part of aging.<br />
Alzheimer's is a thief, it steals and steals. <br />
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We are Missing Jim.Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-43531626397332962732016-03-19T11:33:00.001-04:002016-03-19T11:37:08.230-04:00misspeakThank you Kate Swaffer for all you do.<br />
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Go read her list! <a href="http://kateswaffer.com/2014/06/05/20-things-not-to-say-or-do-to-a-person-with-dementia/">HERE</a><a href="http://kateswaffer.com/2014/06/05/20-things-not-to-say-or-do-to-a-person-with-dementia/"></a>Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-90709914539970926762016-03-01T13:52:00.001-05:002016-03-01T13:52:22.848-05:00two years without herTwo years ago, Mom died. I was just sitting here thinking of what to write in this post and my brother called.<br />
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He called just because he was thinking of me. He didn't remember what day it was. I told him I was just thinking about him too. <br />
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We shared news of the joys that are in our lives. We rejoiced in our children and grandchildren.<br />
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He told me not to cry, and go do a happy dance for Mom. So I'm going to dance around today and wiggle my butt in my <b><a href="http://withandwithouther.blogspot.com/2011/08/aunt-j.html">too tight jeans</a>,</b> and think happy thoughts about Mom. Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-77363482953175803842015-09-08T23:13:00.000-04:002018-11-12T20:51:10.780-05:00improvSo, I was canning summer vegetables and crying all over the tomatoes. I was listening to the radio program "This American Life" and a rebroadcast of an episode from last summer. The story was about Karen, her husband Mondy, and her mother Virginia. Virginia has dementia. <a href="http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/532/magic-words?act=2">Go listen HERE</a>. Start listening at 27:30. <br />
Then go to Karen's website: <a href="http://www.in-themoment.com/">In the Moment </a>(<a href="http://www.in-themoment.net/">new version</a>) and learn about her tools and techniques. As she says " In the Moment ... was developed after my surreal world of improvisation collided
with the very real world of Alzheimer's disease."<br />
Then go to her other website <a href="http://www.ubuntudementia.com/">Ubuntu</a>. Looks like some good resources. (note: 2018 Ubuntu web site down.)Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-56295318813720178832015-04-13T22:17:00.000-04:002015-04-14T10:24:16.968-04:00death and taxes...So here it is, the middle of April, and for those of us in the US it is TAX TIME. The deadline for filing our federal and state taxes is here. The joy of spring is overshadowed by the task of filling out these forms. <br />
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For many of us, we put it off until the last day, the last possible moment.<br />
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I have been doing Mom's taxes for many years. Her tax situation was very simple. There are a lot of lines on her tax form with $0.<br />
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Why have I been procrastinating? Why? Every time I sit down to start her taxes I would get a big cramp, a lump in my heart, my stomach would clench, a feeling of dread would engulf me. I could not face her taxes. Why?<br />
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I think... it's because I now remember my Mother as the woman she was. I can now remember her as the intelligent, creative, loving person she was. I am not plagued by the memories of the day-to-day devastation that dementia created. I have stopped thinking of her as ONLY that woman.<br />
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But, the tax forms, once again, take me back to that place, the place where dementia held my Mother. A place I don't want to be. A place with the HUGE monthly checks for her assisted living residence and medications; a place with cases of incontinent panties; a place where she was so lost.<br />
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But dementia no longer has my Mother. <br />
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Mom, tomorrow I will take you walking through my spring garden, we will talk about the narcissus as they poke up from the icy soil, we will discuss rhubarb pie recipes when we see the emerging leaves, we will talk about the returning Canada geese, we will enjoy the warm sun, and try to imagine sheep shapes in the clouds. And yes, Mom, I got your taxes done, just in time, we won't have to worry about them, every again. Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-66741458875402802732015-03-13T19:47:00.000-04:002015-03-13T19:47:38.231-04:00Sir TerryAlzheimer's disease has taken another of my heroes. Sir Terry Pratchett passed away <b><a href="http://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-31858156">yesterday</a>. </b>Thank you Sir for your creativity and imagination. Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-18715615115458426282015-03-04T10:08:00.000-05:002020-06-28T09:34:50.754-04:00father and sonThank you <a href="http://kateswaffer.com/">Kate</a> Swaffer for sharing this beautiful music video, of a son and his father.<b> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bfuzbcXtDo8#t=252">Mahamera Se </a></b><br />
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oops - it seems that video has been taken down.<br />
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The song: Mahamera Se<br />
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Performed by: <span style="font-weight: normal;">Dulip Jayakody</span></div>
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Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-39107311431452121162015-02-27T11:13:00.002-05:002015-02-27T11:15:57.733-05:00it's been one yearIt's been one year since Mom died, one year without her.<br />
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There were still many things that I had to do for her this past year, even though she wasn't here. I still have to do her taxes.<br />
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She never got to cuddle her great-granddaughter.<br />
She never knew about our farm or chased our chickens.<br />
She never knew that I became a quilter or saw any of my quilts.<br />
She doesn't get to watch her granddaughter play collegiate softball.<br />
She never saw a smartphone or a tablet.<br />
She doesn't know I drive a truck.<br />
She never got to know the amazing men who are her grandsons.<br />
She didn't get to bake the traditional Christmas cookies this year, but I did, and wept. <br />
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Our lives goes on.<br />
We live without her. <br />
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<br />Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-77624559703589168822015-02-08T09:47:00.001-05:002018-03-22T17:25:43.113-04:00Sister Monica JoanSomehow I have been captured by the TV series "Call the Midwife". The joys and heartache of childbirth and the society of nurses and Sisters that run Nonnatus House. Nonnatus House provides health services to the people of East London in the early half of the 20th century, most specifically mother and child services. <br />
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The character of Sister Monica Joan is that of an amazing woman. She was the first nurse midwife in her area. A driven educated leader of her time.<br />
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But when we meet her in this TV series, she is in the last chapters of her life. Something has scrambled the file cabinet of her knowledge. Sometimes she escapes reality for historical, fictional, or mythological experiences.<br />
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The character of Sister Monica Joan shows us the experience of dementia in a powerful, intelligent, and caring person. I am in awe of this woman, the TV character and the actress who portrays her.<br />
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Her character helps to create awareness for dementia illnesses. Her character show us that dementia is NOT an "all or nothing" illness. It creeps in slowly and steals abilities bit by bit. <br />
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The actress, Judy Parfitt, who plays the character Sister Monica Joan, has had first hand experience with dementia. Her husband lived with dementia. You can read her story here: <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2559011/How-husband-I-adored-slipped-away-Call-The-Midwifes-nun.html">link</a><br />
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Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-45000659697219252402015-01-14T09:07:00.000-05:002015-01-14T09:07:42.318-05:00book reviewWell I've done it again, I'm reading a book for pleasure and dementia finds me. The book is "The Thirteenth Tale" by Diane Setterfield.<br />
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It is not one of the main characters, it is the minor character of <i>The Missus</i>, the housekeeper of Angelfield estate.<br />
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It is interesting to read how the slow devastation of dementia in <i>The Missus</i> is paralleled in the slow deterioration of building of Angelfield itself. It is also interesting how, even though <i>The Missus</i> is the primary person responsible for this great estate and the well-being of five or more people, no one in the household cares (?) that their world has become wonky. Their house, meals, and clothing have become irregular and squalid. Not only can <i>The Missus</i> not care for herself, she can no longer run the estate.<br />
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Only her long close friendship with <i>Mr Dig</i> keeps her safe at home.<br />
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Ms. Setterfield has written a gripping story, and a very good glimpse into the creeping devastation of dementia. Mariarosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16589817796858099823noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6143893838856267913.post-15438663850621290492014-12-04T19:43:00.002-05:002014-12-04T19:45:29.014-05:00facts and figures 2014<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Read it and weep, share it and create awareness.<br />
Thank you <a href="http://www.alz.org/">Alzheimer's Association</a> for all you do.<br />
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There will be a joy, hope, love, silliness, and seriousness.<br />
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Come on over and visit, for you are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest, just for a little while.<br />
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