Today is World Alzheimer's Day, a day to raise awareness about this devastating disease . Today is also International Day of Peace, a day to remember that we need to work for the end of world conflict and war.
My brain laughed maniacally this morning when I saw both notices. There is no peace with Alzheimer's disease, there is no peace with dementia, at least not that I've seen.
Dementia rips through a person's brain causing havoc and mayhem. Dementia blows up the life of the whole family, causing adult children to fight with each other for "what is best for Dad". Dementia exhausts the resources of everyone it touches: financial resources and emotional resources. There is no peace in a family when a wife screams at this "stranger" who is helping her in the bath; yelling and punching a man she has loved for 40+ years. There is no peace, when this woman in my Mother's body says she hates me.
After Mom is gone, after we've lost the war with Alzheimer's (because Alzheimer's always wins), when peace finally comes to our family, there will be a barren battlefield in our hearts, there will be scorched earth where there should be happy memories of Mom's life.
War is Hell and so is dementia.