There is a lot of sharing that goes on at the assisted living residence. Sharing, borrowing, collecting, redistribution of assets... call it what you will.
But don't call it stealing, it is definitely not stealing. Stealing is when you know something is not yours and you take it anyway.
It's not stealing to walk into your neighbor's room and take their photo album. Because you once had a photo album just like that one, and the people in those photos look just like... her, you know, him, those people.
It's called collecting when your roommate has 15 toothbrushes and 6 tubes of toothpaste you have 0.
It's called redistribution of assets when the once all green bath towels are now burgundy, blue, yellow, and white.
Yes, when I first moved Mom to assisted living I put her name inside all her books, I labeled all her dvds, I ironed name tags into all her clothing. I wrote her name on all her sheets and towels. Now it really doesn't matter, does it? Her stuff is around there someplace. Her hair brush could be visiting with a neighbor. And, whose lace curtains are these, on the back of Mom's chair?